My 18 year-old daughter is under the impression that since she hasn't dated yet, she may be doomed to be single her entire life. Can we look up the word 'perspective' and perhaps get some?
Here is a funny entry from Bonnie's blog this week. Apparently, this is how college-age kids see the world:
What I should have done from midnight-3am:Worked
What I did instead:Sat in the hallway in my friends and discussed relationships
What I learned from that conversation:Boys don't get hints, you have to be direct, my usual technique (send no signals whatsoever) doesn't work. At all.
How likely I'm going to be in a relationship in the near future:Not very
How likely I'm going to be an old spinster with a billion cats and a very large stick:Quite
Which elicited these comments from friends:
Friend: Been my plan for years baby!
Bonnie: We can start a "destined to be an old spinster with a billion cats and a very large stick" club. There seem to be a disturbing amount of us out there...
2nd friend: Oo! Oo! I've been predicting i'll be an old spinster w/ a billion cats since high school. and i think the very large stick is a nice addition. i'm not quite sure how i'll get a guy either. u and i have the same technique it seems. : P
Bonnie: Big sticks are necessary to scare away small children, because I'll be old and bitter and therefore need to be not just any old cat lady, but the SCARY crazy cat lady.
2nd friend: lol. ok u be the scary cat lady and i'll be the nice cat lady. (as long as those darned kids stay off my property!) : P
3rd friend: Heh heh....and to think I was the one who was originally going to be a crazy old cat lady carrying a spiked cudgel around...and you were all shocked. ;)
Looks like it's been spreading though! I think you should definitely start a facebook group. *g* I will be the smelliest! Because according to Jess I'll live in the sewer, heh.
4th friend: I prefer to call it "crazy old cat lady"
and that's what I'll be, too. We can live in neighboring smelly cat-ridden houses.
also, I have the same "usual method..." and you're right, it doesn't work. stupid boys not being able to pick up on our nonexistent signals...
Bonnie: Yeah, stupid boys. I should start a "destined to be crazy old cat ladies" group on facebook. I figure I could get a pretty large membership considering boys = dense and not mind readers and girls = shy/scared
5th friend: Haha, I soooooooo agree with that and where do I sign up :-P
Boys = oblivious (even to what's in front of their faces)...
6th friend: And yeah, count me in on the old cat lady fun. I'm naming all my cats after the cats in Barbara Michaels' books, starting with Henrietta Marie. You think I'm kidding--I'm not.
7th friend: I am having cats one way or another. My kitties. Dont ever take them away from me...
8th friend: HeHe. Cats...yummy!
9th friend: Can I live in the alley with the rest of you? Except that I'm allergic to cats. I've got a cactus instead, and probably I'd get some crayfish or something to go with that.
I really enjoyed this exchange...were we ever this young?
Wow, I thought I was the only one who felt like that...I'm 18, and I was just "lamenting" over not having a serious relationship yesterday....i see people all around me in love and happy, and sometimes you feel like a leper because you never have had that....thanks people, i feel alot better about it now...
Posted by: Whitney | Saturday, February 11, 2006 at 09:50 PM
I'm that young, I'm turning twenty awfully close and I've never had an official boyfriend, for a week or for a year. Lots of other things but I've never accomplished a relationship. Hopefully before my biological clock stops ticking.
Posted by: Mary | Sunday, March 13, 2005 at 08:51 PM
Geeze, Tonya, sounds like a guy I'd date. Tell him to just go up to girls; most of us are really shy.
Posted by: Caroline | Tuesday, December 14, 2004 at 07:42 AM
I read this late at night and had to laugh into my sleeve so as not to wake the family. Congratulations on raising such a wonderful girl. She and her friends sound so healthy and normal - with a sense of humour! I should know, I now have a 21 year old and have survived those wilderness years.
Posted by: Kerry | Tuesday, December 14, 2004 at 04:10 AM
Nate (my son) is 18 and has never dated, and he laments this, thinks there's "something wrong" with him. All of his buddies have girlfriends. He, too, talks of living alone with a cat. And then I have to tickle him before he gets too morose.
Posted by: Tonya | Monday, December 13, 2004 at 09:43 PM
Margaret - I get asked for my number a lot, and sometimes go out on dates and stuff, but most college boys seem to either want to hook up or get into a really serious relationship (to hook up). Dating is becoming an odd thing to do. It's just frustrating.
Posted by: Caroline | Sunday, December 12, 2004 at 10:19 AM
18! hahahaha. :)
Posted by: azuradec | Sunday, December 12, 2004 at 03:31 AM
There is always that fear that no one will appreciate our fine qualities! I didn't date until college and our older girl didn't have a single date or even phone call from a boy until she was 17. So, you just don't know what's around the corner. (hard to imagine when you're young though)
Posted by: Margaret | Saturday, December 11, 2004 at 03:27 PM
Actually, I'm still this young. I thought I was the only one who thought this way. You should send this out as a flyer for college guys.
Posted by: Caroline | Saturday, December 11, 2004 at 03:14 PM